There’s nothing harder than feeling like you have to start over. I thought I had it figured out in my 30s — building a career, raising two beautiful children, and living what looked like a happy life. But in the day-to-day of motherhood, I slowly lost myself.
I poured everything into being a “good” partner — working, schooling, parenting, cleaning, cooking — and still felt like I was doing it all alone. My partner focused solely on work, and the lack of support left me drained. Working night shifts while still doing school drop-offs, meals, and errands during the day broke me down. My weight doubled, my depression deepened, and my relationship turned into a list of roles I had to play — maid, nanny, therapist, chef — everything except being loved.
When things finally hit a breaking point, I walked away with nothing but my kids and the strength to say “enough.” Now, I’m rebuilding from what feels like nothing — but I know I’m not starting from scratch. I’m starting from wisdom, from resilience, and for them.
My life feels like a mess right now. I don’t even know where to begin putting the pieces back together. But I do know this: I have two little lives depending on me. And as long as they’re safe, fed, and loved — I can rest at night knowing that I’m doing everything I can, one day at a time.
Somewhere in all of this pain, I’m learning that starting over doesn’t mean I’ve failed — it means I’m brave enough to try again.
This chapter hurts, deeply. But it’s also the beginning of something new — something that I get to define. There is strength in survival, and even more in choosing to rebuild.
I don’t have all the answers, but I do have purpose. And with each small step forward, I’m reclaiming my peace, my voice, and my power.
To any mother reading this who feels like she’s starting from nothing: you’re not alone, and you’re not starting from scratch — you’re starting from experience.
We’re rising, even if it’s messy. And we’re doing it together.
Affirmation
I am not broken — I am rebuilding. I am not lost — I am becoming. Each day, I rise stronger, softer, and more rooted in who I am meant to be.
Signed,
The Comforting Mum 🤎
The Comforting Mum 